The holy grail of hot drinks! 

I don’t know about you but I always love a good hot drink during the winter. I’m English and everyone would assume that would be a big cup of tea. However at the best of times I don’t even like tea, I’ll drink it occasionally or at work but other than that never. 

My number one drink, the holy grail of hot drinks, in my opinion, is a HOT BLACKCURRANT!  

I remember having this drink when I was a little girl either when I was ill or when I needed some comfort. I’d be wrapped up in my duvet looking like a caterpillar with my big santa mug (despite it not being christmas – everyone loves being festive) watching a feel good movie on the sofa. 

Since having my own house I’ve had the need/ craving to have this on a nightly basis. I don’t know why but it makes me feel so warm and cosy inside, granted I also have a couple of bourbons to accompany, to help feed the chocoholic nature in me as well. 

What’s your favourite feel good hot drink? 

Yours truly

Sophie x

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The fine art of being a adult. 

I’ve learnt a lot about the joys of being an adult since I moved into my own house. 

Household chores are a big thing. 

I’ve had to make sure the clothes are washed and ready for work. Prepping dinner and making sure it’s cooked for around 6ish. Cleaning up afterwards and obsessing over little bits of dirt on my brand new yet utterly wrong choice but looks really lovely in my dining room…dining room table. Phew mouth full. 

The lack of getting ‘you’ time is also becoming a massive thing. Before when I lived with my parents, I’d get home, get changed, watch Tv, eat dinner, watch more Tv and then go to bed. Nowadays I get home, run round like a headless chicken and finally settle down around 9 at night and by then I’m too tired to do anything and just want my comfy bed! Only now I have to share it and I have less than half the room to spread like a starfish! 😩

I also find myself obsessing over everything in a decorative sense. ‘Does this candle look nice here. Does that clock go. Hmmm something’s missing here. Oh a nice lamp would look lovely here.’

I just can’t seem to stop thinking of little jobs I can do to make my house look just how I want it. The more I think about it as well, the more I come to realise that my house will never ever stop being tampered with! Which is slightly annoying, very time consuming and will probably put a very large hole in my pocket. Or Danny’s tehehe. 

Although I am a mere age of 21 I have come to respect my parents more and more as I’ve realised just how stressfull, time consuming and utterly non self centred adult life is. It’s always about others and never about yourself. So, Mum and Pops, I salute you! Well done….. for bringing up such an awesome child! Haha

Yours truly 

Sophie x

Panic Attacks

If a person you love/ care about or a friend suffers from panic attacks, there’s a lot you can do to try and help them. 

Nine times out of ten nobody knows what to do and nearly all the time everyone just stares at you and thinks your looking for attention or your just a cry baby. So In this article I’ll be giving some top tips on how to help people whilst there having a panic attack.

I know I’ve written one before but it’s always good to have a little refresh! 

The ‘Do’ list: 

 – Do remind the person having a panic attack that they are in no way obligated to stay where they are. They can leave if they are panicking, don’t pressure them to stay where they are. 

Do assure them there is nothing to be afraid of. Someone experiencing a panic attack will probably find it a lot harder to rationalize the fact that there’s no real reason to be panicking, that’s the sad truth. Remind them they are completely safe and that you are there to help them through this.

Do let them know that it’s only temporary. Panic attacks don’t and will never last forever. Despite the terrible mental state the sufferer is in. 

Do encourage them to breathe. Breathing is particularly difficult during a panic attack and someone experiencing it could forget to breathe properly. Tell them to take a deep breath in for four seconds, then let it out for four seconds and repeat. Breathing helps, but it only helps when done correctly. Another way that I found was to make sure my feet are flat on the ground to ‘ground’ myself with the floor. It helps keep me grounded and to re focus on everything. 

Do attempt to have an engaging conversation with them. Chances are if you’re a friend, you know what piques the person’s interest. Try to casually bring the topic up. Don’t bombard the person in a panic attack with a lengthy conversation as this could be overwhelming. 

Do stay with them!! If the person panicking wants you to leave, it’s most likely the anxiety talking. More often than not, a panic attack only gets worse if the person is left alone to suffer through their own thoughts. Stay by their side no matter what.

The ‘Don’t’ list:

Don’t let denial fool you. No matter how comfortable I am around a person, if they ask if everything’s okay when they accurately sense something is not, I assure them everything is fine. Don’t let this fool you.

Don’t tell them to calm down or relax. This is a huge no no, it never helps normally during conversation so it’s best not to say it whilst someone is suffering from a panic attack. 

Don’t ask why they’re panicking. The sufferer probably knows just as much as you do in that moment.

Don’t brush it off. You might be in the company of someone who is pro at panic attacks. Don’t brush off or ignore any panic attack, no matter what the circumstances are. 

Don’t bullshit. “Look over there at that bird!” “Stare at me for 10 seconds.” “Close your eyes and picture a nice glowing star.” No, no, and no. Don’t bullshit someone while they’re in a panic attack. None of that works and you know it.

Don’t seem irritated or judgmental. This sounds obvious, but it’s important. One of my biggest fears is that when I’m having a panic attack, I’m annoying people or ive ruined a good evening/ event due to how I am. Even if you are somewhat annoyed, maintain composure and keep in mind that you are nowhere near as annoyed as the person actually experiencing the panic attack. 

The main thing to remember is be there for them. Don’t be a d**k or over sensitive. Be yourself, talk them through it and help them. Anxiety and panic attacks don’t disappear over night or ever at all. So help not hinder. 

Yours truly 

Sophie x

A year on…

A lot has happened in this last year since I was last active on here. 

You know that annoying thing that pops up in your Facebook notification box every day and shows you how your English lessons at skule were nt helping u att all and how cool you really used to be when mate was actually m8. I don’t know about you but mine just reminds me how bored I was so I just had jump on the ‘like for a rate’ band wagon. 

Well either way it helped remind me of something I used to love doing. So… here I am, about to spout out what goals I’ve accomplished in the last year of my life to, well, probably no one. BUT who really cares, as long as I’m happy and doing something to fill my spare time with, life is good! 

Anyway, to cut to the point of this blog post here’s a list of what’s happened; 

– I’m now officially employed! Yay!! (insert a round of applause) 

– I turned 21. Boo!! 

– I now live with my amazing boyfriend in our very own home.

– My car survived a whole year without breaking down.

And the last thing is; 

I HAVE A MORTGAGE! I know I’m such an adult! 

All this in one year… WOW

I feel over the moon with what I’ve achieved. I’ve proved lots of people wrong, including myself and let’s say I am loving life. 

All I needed was a little bit of determination! So cond on people get up, get out there, and achieve your goals! I believe in you!

Yours truly

Sophie x